Knowledge is knowing that Frankenstein is not the monster.
Wisdom is knowing that Frankenstein is the monster.
I want you to imagine a ten year old version of yourself sitting right there on this couch. Now this is the little girl who first believed that she was fat, and ugly, and an embarrassment.
This is groundbreaking
this is my third time rebloging this today. this is so important.
I have goosebumps
because were all trying to heal the child that was broken
This show is wonderful
Normandy, France | by Jarrod Castaing
I’ve been to Normandy! Gorgeous place!!
When you have a baby you await the comments of- “wow, doesn’t he look like you,” or “He’s got his daddy’s nose,” ect… One of the most exciting things you’ve waited for the whole pregnancy is seeing whom baby resembles most and what features they’ve taken from you or dad. What I didn’t expect was the little things baby’s do and their little personalities and mannerisms also get compared to your own and the fathers.
Biologically there are bound to be many similarities. As your baby grows a bond to you, they become attached and their love for you grows immensely, which then encourages your child to mimic you, as they desire to be like you, as the role model that you are. From day one your child starts to copy things you do, from facial expressions, to habits and mannerisms. [So you may need to pretend that the massive black spider crawling along the floor isn’t making you want to move out and burn the house down, it is in fact cute and fluffy]
As they get older the way you are around them and things you say will be copied and this means you have to be so careful with how you behave. You may feel like you’re under the watchful eye of your traditional, well-spoken grandparents or living at home with your strict parents, where you can’t say the occasional swear word when you drop something on your toe or you cannot find where you put that important piece of paper and find its half eaten by your toddler.
I constantly get told, “Lucas is so content, that’s because you’re so chilled out with him,” I sometimes worry as I am an extremely anxious person and am so afraid that will rub off on Lucas, so to hear someone say that he’s content because I am, is so reassuring.
I also always try to remember that Lucas is his own little person, he isn’t half Brad and half me, he’s a quarter Brad, a quarter me, and half his own little person.
It’s always lovely to have a mini-me, but like me, I’m sure you mamas have some worries about your little one gaining some of your not so great traits?
There are ways to help this and here are a few I want to keep in mind to use in the future.
- Never behave in a way I wouldn’t want Lucas to mimic. – Never do something that I have to say, “mummy can behave like this, but Lucas can’t,” or “I can do that because I am a grown up,” Of course there are things as an adult you can do but a child can’t, but it’s always best to do it away from the watchful eye of a little one to stop any confusion.
- Learn to keep a straight face when he does something wrong or copies something I’ve done and don’t want him to do. – Laughter can make them think you approve of what they have done and they wont understand that it’s not okay.
- Always apologise for slip up’s – No one is perfect and i’m bound to slip up and swear at one point or do something i’ve always told him isn’t appropriate, so don’t be afraid to admit to him, I was “naughty” and say “sorry, mummy shouldn’t have done that,”
- Try really hard to not say something I would die if it was repeated in public by Lucas –like calling the mother in law a “pain in the ass” or the nursery teacher “overweight” ect… The chances are he will repeat things I say if he hears me say it and chances are there will be things I really wouldn’t want them to find out that’s how you really feel.
- Lucas is unique and will of course have traits of mine and his father’s but teaching him my good traits is so important.
What are your similarities to your little ones? and what would you like to pass on and what would you rather not pass on?
Woe is me
My belly hurts tonight :-( stupid dairy being so tasty and shit…